Family Constellations Therapy

A Path to Healing Where Love Was Interrupted

Family Constellation Therapy  Sydney - Daniel Del Monte
  • Family Constellations is a systemic therapeutic approach designed to uncover unconscious dynamics within a family or ancestral lineage. It explores how unresolved traumas, exclusions, and entanglements from previous generations can manifest as emotional, relational, or physical challenges in the present.

    Rooted in the phenomenological work of German psychotherapist Bert Hellinger, this method views the individual not as an isolated being but as part of a larger relational field, often referred to as the Family Conscience. Hellinger observed that when natural orders within the family are disrupted through events such as loss, war, adoption, secrets, or injustice, love can become entangled, and descendants may unconsciously carry emotional burdens that are not their own.

    This process draws on principles from systems theory, transgenerational trauma research, and psychodynamic therapy, integrating experiential and embodied practices that allow hidden patterns to surface without relying on verbal analysis. Rather than focusing solely on cognitive insight or storytelling, Family Constellations uses representational perception, where participants intuitively access emotions, postures, and relational positions that reflect the deeper reality of a family system.

    Through a structured yet intuitive process, clients gain access to systemic insight. This reveals unseen loyalties, intergenerational grief, or inherited pain that may be affecting their relationships, health, or sense of belonging. Healing becomes possible when excluded members are acknowledged, broken orders are restored, and the flow of love is gently re-established across the family system.

  • In recent decades, Family Constellations has become an increasingly valued modality within trauma informed psychotherapy, integrative coaching, and somatic healing disciplines.

    This method addresses what many contemporary approaches struggle to reach: the systemic roots of individual symptoms. Rather than treating surface level behaviours or isolated narratives, Constellations reveal intergenerational entanglements and transferred emotional burdens that operate outside of conscious awareness.

    Clients often seek support for issues such as recurring relationship conflict, anxiety, depression, chronic illness, or a persistent sense of disconnection. These difficulties frequently link back to disruptions in the family system, such as unprocessed grief, early death, abandonment, migration, or historical trauma.

    Family Constellations offers a way to access what is known as the family field. This is a collective memory or relational intelligence that exists within and around us. The process uses representational resonance, embodied insight, and relational mapping to make these hidden dynamics visible. It works not through cognitive analysis, but through systemic perception and phenomenological exploration. This allows unseen loyalties and unresolved grief to come into view and gently shift.

    For therapists, coaches, and healing professionals, this method is a powerful complement to other modalities. It offers a systemic perspective that integrates well with inner child work, somatic therapy, and transpersonal approaches.

    Ultimately, Family Constellations supports what many people feel but cannot yet articulate. It helps restore belonging, repair ancestral fractures, and return each person to their rightful place in the family system.

  • Family Constellations can be facilitated in both group and one-to-one settings, each engaging the client in a process of phenomenological exploration to access unconscious systemic dynamics.

    In a group setting, participants gather in a circle, and one person is invited to present an issue they wish to explore. The facilitator listens carefully for systemic clues related to family structure, unresolved trauma, or relational rupture. Based on this intake, the client selects individuals from the group to serve as representatives for key family members, ancestral figures, or symbolic elements such as “the symptom” or “the secret.”

    These representatives are positioned in the space according to the client's inner image of the system. Through what is often called representational perception, they begin to access and embody the emotional tone, posture, and relational dynamics of the roles they are representing. This process unfolds in real time, often revealing unexpected entanglements, exclusions, or disordered relationships that have been operating beneath conscious awareness.

    The facilitator monitors the field with focused presence, making minimal yet precise interventions. These may include repositioning, sentence work, or guided acknowledgements that seek to restore systemic order, reestablish belonging, and release burdens that were unconsciously inherited. A shift is often felt somatically and emotionally by the client and the group, not through intellectual understanding, but through a visceral recognition of what was previously unseen.

    In one-to-one sessions, the same principles are applied using symbolic tools such as object placements, paper footprints, 3D board representations, or guided meditations. The client and facilitator co-create a visual or embodied map of the family system, which may be explored through spatial arrangement, intuitive dialogue, inner imagery, or subtle movement. These representations act as portals into the deeper field of systemic knowing, enabling the client to access emotional truths that bypass cognitive defences.

    Though the format is more contained than group work, it remains deeply experiential and effective. It allows clients to engage with systemic material in a focused and personalised way, whether conducted in person or via online platforms. When combined with techniques such as somatic tracking or imaginal resourcing, these sessions can evoke profound insights and realignment within the client's inner family landscape.

  • The effects of a Family Constellations session often continue well beyond the moment of insight. Many clients notice an immediate sense of relief, lightness, and emotional clarity as the systemic image shifts and the nervous system recalibrates. Others experience more subtle or delayed changes that unfold over days or weeks as the inner landscape reorganises.

    Because this work operates within the relational field and engages implicit memory, it often bypasses the analytical mind. The healing process does not depend on explanation. It rests on phenomenological perception, the body and psyche recognising that something essential has moved into place.

    During integration, clients may observe shifts in emotional responses, family dynamics, and personal boundaries. Long standing patterns can soften or dissolve, not through force, but because the unconscious loyalties that maintained them have been seen and acknowledged.

    It is common to feel more emotional or inwardly reflective in the days after a session. This is part of integration as the body and psyche digest the experience. Supportive practices include rest, journalling, time in nature, gentle movement, and speaking with a trusted person.

    Constellations do not require you to understand everything. They ask for openness, a readiness to include what was once excluded, and a willingness to look again with new eyes.

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Frequently Asked Questions

  • Family Constellations is a systemic method that reveals hidden patterns in a family or lineage. By mapping relationships in a safe and guided way, we restore belonging where love was interrupted.

  • Yes. Private sessions are available in person in Sydney and online by appointment. See the Private Session page to book.

  • Group: you may bring an issue to explore, or you may be invited to represent others. Both roles can be deeply healing.
    One to one: we work privately using objects, paper footprints, 3D board representations or guided meditations to map your system.

  • Yes. Systemic work is effective for leadership, team dynamics, culture, and decision mapping. Contact us for a discovery call.

  • Day workshops run four to five hours. One to one sessions are sixty minutes. Intro evenings are usually two hours.

  • Sydney workshops run at selected venues listed on the Events page. One to one sessions in person take place at my studio in Bondi. Online one to ones are also available on Zoom.

  • Comfortable clothing, water, and a notebook. We work in socks or bare feet indoors, so shoes off is helpful.

  • No. A simple intention is enough. If you do know key events such as early deaths, adoptions, migration, or family cut offs, they can be useful but are not required.

  • Yes, the space is held with care and clear boundaries. There is no touch without consent, you can pause at any time, and you always have a choice to pass on any invitation.

  • Yes. What is shared in the room stays in the room. Participants agree to strict confidentiality. No personal stories are published.

  • Some workshops are gently recorded to capture the facilitator at work and key moments of the field. Faces and personal stories are not the focus. Media consent is optional and can be declined on your form or by telling us on the day.

  • Perfect. You will receive a short briefing at the start. You can also come as an observer to get a feel for the work.

  • That is completely fine. You can decline any invitation and still benefit by observing.

  • Relationships, family conflicts, self worth, anxiety, grief, money and work patterns, health themes, belonging, and major life choices. We work at the root, not at the symptom only.

  • Keep the twenty four hours beforehand simple. Reduce alcohol and recreational drugs. Rest, hydrate, and set a clear intention such as I am ready to see what wants to be seen. Arrive ten minutes early.

  • We clarify your intention, set up a map of your system with objects or a 3D board, and allow movements, sentences, and acknowledgements to arise. We complete with a clear image for integration and simple practices you can take home. Online sessions follow the same flow using your desk items and guided imagery.

  • You present your issue in a few sentences. Representatives are chosen and placed in the space. The facilitator tracks the field and invites movements or sentences that restore order and belonging. We close when a stable and respectful image is reached.

  • Many people report relief, lightness, or calm. Others notice slower changes over the next days as the nervous system recalibrates. Both are normal.

  • Keep the next one to three days spacious. Gentle movement, time in nature, journalling, and nourishing food help. Avoid over sharing or analysing. Let the new image settle.

  • If possible, give the process a little time. Wait a few days before major conversations or changes unless the next step is obvious and grounded.

  • We do not chase stories or overwhelm the system. The work respects your pace and uses brief, precise interventions to bring ease rather than reactivation.

  • Some people experience a clear shift from one constellation. Others choose a short series over a few months. Follow your sense of readiness rather than a fixed number.

  • Adults eighteen and over. Constellations are suitable for all genders and backgrounds. If you are in acute crisis or experiencing active psychosis, please seek clinical care first and contact us before booking.

  • Venues vary. Please email us with your needs so we can confirm access or offer an online option.

  • Many pregnant people attend and represent lighter roles. Please advise the facilitator so we can support your comfort and pace.

  • Yes. It can be powerful. We will guide you on when to sit together and when to have space so each person feels safe.

  • It is a personal development and systemic healing practice. It is not medical or psychological treatment and it does not replace your doctor or therapist. Please keep your existing supports in place.

  • Yes. Constellations complement talk therapy, somatic work, breathwork, and coaching. Let your other practitioners know so your supports can align.

  • If you are in acute crisis, recently hospitalised for psychiatric reasons, or currently under the influence of substances, please seek clinical support first and contact us before booking.

  • One to one sessions: Bookings are non-refundable. You can reschedule up to 24 hours before your appointment. Inside 24 hours, the booking is fixed.

    Workshops: Tickets are refundable up to 14 days before the event. After that, tickets are non-refundable, but you can transfer your ticket to another person—just email us the new name.

  • Yes. Daniel holds professional indemnity and public liability insurance appropriate to this work.

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