Family Constellations Therapy

A Path to Healing Where Love Was Interrupted

Family Constellation is a gentle, trauma-aware method to explore hidden patterns and loyalties within your family system. This page answers common questions and helps you understand what to expect.

Family Constellation Therapy in Sydney facilitated by Daniel Del Monte

About Family Constellation

  • Family Constellations is a systemic approach that helps uncover hidden patterns and dynamics in your family or ancestral lineage. It explores how unresolved traumas, losses, or entanglements from previous generations can show up as emotional, relational, or physical challenges today.

    Rooted in the work of German psychotherapist Bert Hellinger, this method sees individuals as part of a larger family system. When natural family orders are disrupted — through events like loss, adoption, secrets, or injustice — descendants can unconsciously carry burdens that are not their own.

    Through experiential and embodied exercises, Family Constellations allows these patterns to surface and be understood without relying on lengthy discussion or analysis. Clients gain clarity on hidden loyalties, intergenerational grief, or inherited pain affecting their relationships, wellbeing, or sense of belonging. Healing happens as excluded members are acknowledged and the natural flow of love and connection is gently restored.

  • In recent decades, Family Constellations has become a valued approach in trauma-informed therapy, integrative coaching, and somatic healing. Unlike many methods that focus on surface behaviours, it addresses the systemic roots of recurring challenges, revealing intergenerational patterns and emotional burdens that operate outside conscious awareness.

    Clients often seek support for recurring relationship conflict, anxiety, depression, chronic illness, or a sense of disconnection. These difficulties can stem from disruptions in the family system, such as unprocessed grief, early loss, abandonment, migration, or historical trauma.

    The method works through experiential, embodied insight, helping clients see hidden loyalties and unresolved grief. It doesn’t rely on cognitive analysis; instead, it engages the relational “family field” to gently shift dynamics and restore a sense of belonging.

    For therapists, coaches, and healing professionals, Family Constellations is a powerful complement to modalities like somatic therapy, inner child work, or transpersonal approaches. Ultimately, it helps people reconnect with themselves, their families, and their rightful place in the system.

  • Family Constellations can be experienced in a group or one-to-one setting, each helping you access hidden family patterns and dynamics that influence your life today.

    In a group session, participants form a circle and one person presents an issue they wish to explore. The facilitator guides the process as the client chooses group members to represent key family members, ancestors, or symbolic elements. These representatives naturally reflect the emotions, postures, and relationships of the roles they embody, often revealing hidden loyalties, entanglements, or patterns that were previously unconscious. The facilitator makes gentle, precise interventions to restore balance and a sense of belonging. Shifts are usually felt emotionally and physically, not just intellectually.

    In a one-to-one session, the same principles apply using symbolic tools such as objects, paper footprints, or guided visualisations. Together, client and facilitator co-create a map of the family system to explore dynamics and uncover emotional truths. This personalised approach is deeply experiential and effective, whether in person or online, helping you access insights, release burdens, and find alignment within your inner family landscape.

  • The effects of a Family Constellations session often continue well beyond the moment of insight. Many clients notice an immediate sense of relief, lightness, or emotional clarity, while others experience more gradual changes over days or weeks as their inner landscape adjusts.

    This work engages the body and the relational field, often bypassing the analytical mind. Healing happens naturally as unconscious patterns are acknowledged and reorganised, without the need for explanation.

    During integration, you may notice shifts in emotional responses, family dynamics, or personal boundaries. Long-standing patterns can soften or dissolve once the underlying loyalties are recognised. It’s common to feel more reflective or emotional in the days following a session — this is a normal part of the process.

    Supportive practices include rest, journalling, gentle movement, spending time in nature, and speaking with a trusted person. Family Constellations does not require you to understand everything; it asks only for openness and a willingness to see and include what was once excluded.

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Other Questions People Often Ask

Sessions & Formats

  • Yes. Private sessions are available in person in Sydney and online by appointment. See the Private Session page to book.

  • Group: you may bring an issue to explore, or you may be invited to represent others. Both roles can be deeply healing.
    One to one: we work privately using objects, paper footprints, 3D board representations or guided meditations to map your system.

  • Yes. Systemic work is effective for leadership, team dynamics, culture, and decision mapping. Contact us for a discovery call.

  • Day workshops run four to five hours. One to one sessions are sixty minutes. Intro evenings are usually two hours.

  • Sydney workshops run at selected venues listed on the Events page. One to one sessions in person take place at my studio in Bondi. Online one to ones are also available on Zoom.

  • Yes. It can be powerful. We will guide you on when to sit together and when to have space so each person feels safe.

  • No. A simple intention is enough. If you do know key events such as early deaths, adoptions, migration, or family cut offs, they can be useful but are not required.

Preparation & Participation

  • No. A simple intention is enough. If you do know key events such as early deaths, adoptions, migration, or family cut offs, they can be useful but are not required.

  • Comfortable clothing, water, and a notebook. We work in socks or bare feet indoors, so shoes off is helpful.

  • Keep the twenty four hours beforehand simple. Reduce alcohol and recreational drugs. Rest, hydrate, and set a clear intention such as I am ready to see what wants to be seen. Arrive ten minutes early.

  • Perfect. You will receive a short briefing at the start. You can also come as an observer to get a feel for the work.

  • That is completely fine. You can decline any invitation and still benefit by observing.

  • Adults eighteen and over. Constellations are suitable for all genders and backgrounds. If you are in acute crisis or experiencing active psychosis, please seek clinical care first and contact us before booking.

  • Venues vary. Please email us with your needs so we can confirm access or offer an online option.

  • Yes, you’re welcome to attend. Please speak with your doctor or midwife about any personal concerns. In constellations you can work gently and without physical strain; if you prefer, you may take part as a representative or observer.

  • Relationships, family conflicts, self worth, anxiety, grief, money and work patterns, health themes, belonging, and major life choices. We work at the root, not at the symptom only.

Safety, Confidentiality & Ethics

  • Yes, the space is held with care and clear boundaries. There is no touch without consent, you can pause at any time, and you always have a choice to pass on any invitation.

  • Yes. What is shared in the room stays in the room. Participants agree to strict confidentiality. No personal stories are published.

  • Some workshops are gently recorded to capture the facilitator at work and key moments of the field. Faces and personal stories are not the focus. Media consent is optional and can be declined on your form or by telling us on the day.

  • We do not chase stories or overwhelm the system. The work respects your pace and uses brief, precise interventions to bring ease rather than reactivation.

  • It is a personal development and systemic healing practice. It is not medical or psychological treatment and it does not replace your doctor or therapist. Please keep your existing supports in place.

  • Yes. Constellations complement talk therapy, somatic work, breathwork, and coaching. Let your other practitioners know so your supports can align.

  • If you are in acute crisis, recently hospitalised for psychiatric reasons, or currently under the influence of substances, please seek clinical support first and contact us before booking.

  • Yes. Daniel holds professional indemnity and public liability insurance appropriate to this work.

Outcomes & Integration

  • Relationships, family conflicts, self worth, anxiety, grief, money and work patterns, health themes, belonging, and major life choices. We work at the root, not at the symptom only.

  • We clarify your intention, set up a map of your system with objects or a 3D board, and allow movements, sentences, and acknowledgements to arise. We complete with a clear image for integration and simple practices you can take home. Online sessions follow the same flow using your desk items and guided imagery.

  • You present your issue in a few sentences. Representatives are chosen and placed in the space. The facilitator tracks the field and invites movements or sentences that restore order and belonging. We close when a stable and respectful image is reached.

  • Many people report relief, lightness, or calm. Others notice slower changes over the next days as the nervous system recalibrates. Both are normal.

  • Keep the next one to three days spacious. Gentle movement, time in nature, journalling, and nourishing food help. Avoid over sharing or analysing. Let the new image settle.

  • If possible, give the process a little time. Wait a few days before major conversations or changes unless the next step is obvious and grounded.

  • Some people experience a clear shift from one constellation. Others choose a short series over a few months. Follow your sense of readiness rather than a fixed number.

Policies & Logistics

  • One to one sessions: Bookings are non-refundable. You can reschedule up to 24 hours before your appointment. Inside 24 hours, the booking is fixed.

    Workshops: Tickets are refundable up to 14 days before the event. After that, tickets are non-refundable, but you can transfer your ticket to another person—just email us the new name.

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